Do you ever hold back from posting photos online or sharing news of something you’ve done because you’re afraid people will be scornful, jealous or judgmental?
I hear a lot from people who’d like to post more pictures online to share their fitness journey, and lives in general, but they’re afraid of being judged. Often it’s because they feel like they’re out of shape or have excess fat on their bodies and they’re worried about what people think or say about that.
It makes me sad to think of all the inspiring images and stories lost to us because of that.
Guys, the unfortunate truth is that some people will judge us and think and say nasty things about us whatever our bodies look like. It never goes away. Believe me, when you’re lean and fit there’s definitely no shortage of people wanting to criticise your body, your photos and the way you choose to live your life.
Sometimes I wonder how many people hold back from actually getting fitter and, more generally, becoming the best they can be in other aspects of life, due to fear of losing friends or being criticised by strangers.
It’s tough for sure, but we simply can’t let that fear of judgement hold us back. We don’t help ourselves or anyone else in our lives by “playing small” in that way.
When we’re lucky enough to have an opportunity to grow, thrive and enhance our existence, I believe we have a duty, not only to ourselves, but also to everyone who ever cared about us to make the most of it.
It’s not just about us, it’s about the positive impact we want to make in the world during the short time we have here. People are always looking on, in life as well as online. Think about how many times you’ve been inspired and motivated by seeing what someone else has achieved, sometimes just from a chance remark or smiling photo posted online.
It’s also on all of us to become more aware of our judgements of others. Until you release resentment towards the achievements of others you’re always going to live in fear of being resented yourself. If that’s a thought pattern you’ve got into it takes some effort to pull yourself out of it and it won’t happen overnight, but you can do it. You can learn to see someone who has something you want feeling inspired, or at least happy for them, rather than that gnawing soul-destroying jealousy. You’ll find very exciting things happen in your life when you do.
I think it’s time self-esteem and confidence becomes something we cheer, rather than deride, in others and nurture in ourselves.
It starts with each us and life is short. So I say don’t be afraid to show off about your achievements and daily progress towards your goals. I for one would love to hear about it.
Go ahead, shine that light.
It’s your duty.
And it’s fun.